[fbgemm_gpu] Add version compatibility checks on library load #18673

Job	Run time
build-bazel (x86, linux.12xlarge, gcc)	4m 9s
build-macos (macos-13, static)	3m 51s
build-windows (windows-2022, shared)	3m 41s
build-bazel (x86, linux.12xlarge, clang)	1s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, gcc, 14.1.0)	4m 9s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, gcc, 9.5.0)	41s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, clang, 16.0.6)	4m 9s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, clang, 16.0.6)	4m 10s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, static, clang, 16.0.6)	4m 8s
build-macos (macos-13, shared)	3m 51s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, gcc, 14.1.0)	3m 40s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, gcc, 9.5.0)	4m 9s
build-windows (windows-2022, static)	3m 40s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, static, gcc, 14.1.0)	4m 8s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, shared, clang, 16.0.6)	4m 12s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, shared, gcc, 14.1.0)	4m 8s
	56m 47s

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