[fbgemm_gpu] Add version compatibility checks on library load #18675

Job	Run time
build-bazel (x86, linux.12xlarge, clang)	9m 32s
build-macos (macos-13, shared)	24m 56s
build-windows (windows-2022, shared)	12m 39s
build-macos (macos-13, static)	18m 38s
build-bazel (x86, linux.12xlarge, gcc)	10m 7s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, gcc, 14.1.0)	26m 19s
build-windows (windows-2022, static)	12m 23s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, gcc, 9.5.0)	25m 52s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, clang, 16.0.6)	20m 2s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, gcc, 9.5.0)	25m 48s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, static, gcc, 14.1.0)	1h 22m 5s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, shared, clang, 16.0.6)	32m 56s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, clang, 16.0.6)	19m 50s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, shared, gcc, 14.1.0)	1h 21m 20s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, gcc, 14.1.0)	26m 23s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, static, clang, 16.0.6)	32m 58s
	7h 41m 48s

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