Add flags to compile ck gemms under pytorch (#4878) #18691

Job	Run time
build-bazel (x86, linux.12xlarge, gcc)	10m 2s
build-macos (macos-13, shared)	20m 29s
build-windows (windows-2022, static)	12m 21s
build-bazel (x86, linux.12xlarge, clang)	9m 33s
build-windows (windows-2022, shared)	12m 29s
build-macos (macos-13, static)	13m 38s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, gcc, 9.5.0)	25m 48s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, gcc, 14.1.0)	26m 29s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, gcc, 9.5.0)	25m 48s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, static, clang, 16.0.6)	32m 47s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, static, clang, 16.0.6)	20m 7s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, clang, 16.0.6)	19m 54s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, static, gcc, 14.1.0)	1h 22m 39s
build-linux (x86, linux.12xlarge, shared, gcc, 14.1.0)	26m 31s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, shared, gcc, 14.1.0)	1h 25m 11s
build-linux (arm, linux.arm64.m7g.4xlarge, shared, clang, 16.0.6)	33m 22s
	7h 37m 8s

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